Today is my son’s birthday and my mind is flooded with memories of birthdays past. My image from his 1st birthday is his face plant into his cake, and looking up at me giggling with chocolate frosting covering his face. Then, on his 2nd birthday, his cousins drove from CT to be at his 1st big birthday party with his friends from pre-school. It was his 1st time in the climbing structure at our local party place and his cousins followed him around protecting him from the children pushing and shoving, as if he were their little brother. It was so sweet.
Fast forward to his 4th birthday, we went big and took him to Disney World. Squeals of glee and excitement were eventually replaced with overload from all of the fun and crowds of people. When we tried to get him to take a nap, he had a meltdown and fired us as his parents. Despite his temper tantrum, what I remember most was his joy and laughter.
The biggest party of them all on his 6th birthday made me legendary in our town. I turned my house into the World Beyblade Championship. My living room was the stadium for battles, my kitchen had a hotdog stand, stadium popcorn machine and stadium snow cone machine. To make the concessions complete, I spoke with a heavy Boston accent like the concessions at Fenway Park. What made me a legend was the wall of prizes in my dining room. I made sure that everyone got prizes and had a good time. Each year has special memories and I would not trade them for anything in the world. Most of all I remember his joy and how grateful I am to be his Mom. Happy Birthday Kevin! I hope you have a wonderful birthday.
At 8:50 PM on January 26, 2006 my son made his grand entrance, announcing his arrival with a loud scream and my life was forever changed. We celebrate this momentous occasion every year. While his 1st birthday was small because he was afraid of crowds, it was huge in my heart. To my delight, he covered his face with his first piece of cake, adding pictures to the family album. The next year he was in pre-school and we invited his friends to an activity center, so that they could fight over the toys and throw cake at each other. Because I couldn’t wait any longer to go to Disney World, we took him for his 4th birthday. Overwhelmed by thousands of people and the excitement, he had a melt down and yelled at me and my husband “You’re Fired!” Shocked, I exclaimed “This is not how I envisioned this moment.” Each year has been memorable and dear to me filled with joy and sometimes meltdowns. But, I wouldn’t trade these moments for anything in the world. So, today I say Happy Birthday again to my son and I am very grateful that you are here.
It’s that special time of year when we are reminded as to how much it costs to raise a child, and how little we get in our tax credit. Let’s face it, none of us have children for the tax credit. And, whether the Federal Government acknowledges or not, we are still going to make sure that they get a good education, healthcare, home, all of the necessities and non-necessities (Xbox, toys and vacations). Being a parent will not give you any tax advantage. The advantages of being a parent are the joy during the holidays, the ability to go to kids movies and not look ridiculous, going to Disney World and acting like a big kid, crazy birthday parties, Nerf battles (boys), tea parties (girls) and opportunities to explore the world with your children and see it in a new way. What are your advantages of being a parent?